Here is the difficulty that I have also. It becomes taboo if a girl at a tender young age of fourteen and even younger in some cultures, becomes pregnant and she is single having to go on raising that child. She is looked down upon. She is pushed aside, she is termed a 'cast out' because some 'church folks' go out of their way to speak ill of them, are mean and nasty to them when deep within these are the ones who need church the most where they can experience God's love, grace, His mercy and forgiveness towards them. Even more taboo when the woman is the one who cheats on her mate in comparison to when the man cheats on his mate.
Now my questions, who are we to judge them? What is the difference between the one who got pregnant, choose not to have an abortion but bring forth her child and the one who is secretly behind closed doors enjoying the pleasures of sex, a sin the bible calls fornication? Could it be because the latter is the Deacon's daughter or some high society individual that we quickly push it under the rug when it comes to light?
What is the difference between the drug dealer, the one who occasionally smokes or drinks alcohol or the prostitute on the street corner? Is one sin greater? What is the difference in the sin of the woman who was caught in the act of adultery and the man who had the affair with her? Again, is one sin greater than the other? Is he excused from the act while she is not? What is the difference between the one who told the lie and the one who got caught stealing? Why do we see the mote in the eyes of these individuals, but not even consider the beam in our own eyes?
Without the knowledge of the truth, harsh as it may sound, Jesus calls us hypocrites when we judge and condemn! He says, the right thing to do is to first cast out the beam that is in thine own eye; and then thou shalt see [clearly] to cast out the mote out of thy brother's/sister's eye. (Matthew 7:5) He knows more than anyone else that we struggle individually in our flesh with a sinful nature of some kind. If you are not struggling with anything, then God bless your heart and soul, but inbox me with how and where your success with that comes form.
These questions that I have asked have been done on purpose, simply to provoke our minds and to get us thinking, and to come to the reality of the following:
- NO sin is greater than the other.
- NO the Law cannot save us, for it is by grace that you and I are saved through our faith in Jesus Christ, not of our own selves lest any of us should boast. (Eph.2:8-9)
- Love is the fulfilling of the whole law of God. It will cover a multitude of faults and would turn any heart back to the saving grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.
- Forgiveness is the key that unlocks any prison door.
- We must learn to accept people for their individual circumstances for who and what they are, keep on praying for them until God intervenes in their lives.
My final thoughts, I personally do not condone sinful behaviours and practices. I pray for the individual/s, I show them love and hope each day that God steps in and bring about the desired change. What I say to those who have been the victim of 'church hurt,' I've been there, so I clearly understand how you may feel, the sort of emotions that runs through you. But my encouragement is this, begin to think big thoughts about yourself.
Dream big! Rise up from the pit of low self-esteem where others may have thrown you and go forth armed with the knowledge of God's word that He loves you unconditionally. While He do not condone sin, He is full of grace, mercy and compassion to forgive you and restore you in the faith where you can now begin to live life to the fullest in the way that He has ordained for you.